| Location | North Shields |
| Age | 57 years |
| Cause of Death | Cancer |
| Date of Birth | 14/01/1950 |
| Date of Death | 19/01/2007 |
| Visitors | 2,685 since 04/06/2007 |
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FROM LISA - DOREEN'S DAUGHTER
My mam was the most precious person I or anyone could meet, it is so unfair that her life was so sadly taken from us. She battled cancer for almost twelve years, on and off she went into remission and always managed to knock the disease sideways, that is until March 2006 when she was re-diagnosed with cancer of the spine, which was terminal, this was the most devastating news we could ever imagine to receive, especially for my dear mam. At that very time of diagnosis she decided there and then that she would fight tooth and nail for her life, she had so much to live for, between then and December 2006 we were told on many occasions that she was not going to live threw the night or a weekend, each time she surpassed everyone’s expectations, even her Macmillan doctors and hospital doctors, couldn’t believe that she could have so much fight, her body had given up but my mam fought and fought, her heart just couldn’t give up…...
Each month, day and minute was a bonus for us, i would pray that she would make milestones that were happening that year. In July she made the most important day of my life, my wedding to Allan, in September my second daughter Hannah’s first birthday and amazingly she made Christmas. It was at this time that she knew the end was in sight, she had been admitted to hospital the week leading up to Christmas and she knew that the cancer was getting more aggressive and spreading quicker than the consultants knew what to do. She was in hospital for about 2 days when she decided that she wanted no more scans and no more palliative treatment, it just wasn’t working, she wasn’t afraid of dying and she wanted to spend the last days of her life with some quality of life with her devoted family……
She was discharged from hospital and threw their tears her doctors told us we would be very blessed if she made Christmas Day, at that point Christmas day was only 2 days away...... Then Christmas was upon us and as we all sat eating Christmas Dinner on that very day we all looked at this remarkable woman sat at the dinner table tucking into her turkey and opening her presants as tears slowly slid down her face. The night before she promised my dad that she would make Christmas Day but she couldn’t guarantee Boxing Day….. Days passed, New Year came and went and we were fast approaching her birthday - 14th January 07. Macmillan doctors, nurses and consultants could not believe she was still with us and were amazed by her resilience, Doreen Hall her friend and Macmillan nurse told us that you only come across someone like my mam once every 15 years……
Then 4 days before her 57th birthday in the early hours of Friday 10th January 2007 she suffered a stroke, my dad frantically rang us all to come to her bedside as we all thought that this was her time, doctors, nurses, family and friends swarmed the house in the early hours and kept a bedside vigil for hours, then at around 9.30am that morning she sat up and asked my dad for a cigarette, she had cheated death once more.....
Our friend and family doctor Jane Wetherstone prepared us for her imminent death, the stroke was just another sign that my beloved mam was at the end of her journey, she told us that we would loose her within 48hrs and put her on a medical term called the pathway designed for people in their last hours of life……… My strong, courageous mam was bed ridden and drifting in and out of sleep but she fought and fought the hardest battle of her life to stay with us. I, my dad and my brother, her brothers, sisters, nieces and devoted friends kept a vigial at her side. Dad, me and my brother slept with her each night praying it wouldnt be her last….. Sadly one week to the day after she had the stroke on Friday 19th January 2007 at 12:25 just after noon she peacefully and strangely beautifully slipped away from us, she had choosen her time to go. I, my dad, my youngest daughter Hannah and our good friend and nurse Doreen Hall were with her holding her hand and talking her threw the last breaths of her life, guiding her to heaven …………
I feel so very privileged to have been with my mam at the end and I know she decided her time. Being with my mam for those last few minutes of her life have given me a different insight into life and mankind……..
Today all our lives are still an empty hole, my dad lost his sweetheart - they had been courting since they were 11years old, I and my brother lost our mam, my brothers boys and my girls lost their nanna, to her brother, sister, nieces, nephews and her devoted friends……. we all lost a very dear and precious person……..
~ oOo ~
I pray that I can be the person you want me to be mam, please guide me and help me make the right decision in life, I’ll miss you every day til I take my place beside you xxxxx
Sleep tight xxx
FROM VICTORIA - DOREEN'S DEVOTED AND FAVOURITE NIECE......
My Aunty Doreen died peacefully on Friday 19th January 2007 in her sleep after a 12 year battle with cancer. Words cant describe how upset we all are and how much we miss you already. We knew you were leaving us but it all happend so quickley, peacefully and strangely beautifully.... i love you so much and will never forget you, at least you knew you were my favorite Aunty - I remember all the times I spent with you and how i used to sleep at your house every weekend, I use to tell my mam and dad I wanted to move in with you when i was 16. You were never short on sweets they were your favorite thing to munch on, you always had a little stash in your cardigan or dressing gown pocket.... but then you became diabetic due to all your treatment but it didnt stop you haha you still had a secret stash somewere in one of your hidey places. There was no-one in this world who didnt love you, you were so kind hearted and would do anything for anyone you were so special, especially to Emily and Hannah, aswell as everyone else who came into contact with you, everyone still thinks the world of you, your name is still very fresh on everyones lips xx. I'd never met anyone so brave and so positive about there life as you my precious Aunty Doreen, you prooved to me that life is too short and that you should live each day with no regrets. You fought cancer 5 times and went into remission four times, most people would give up. Sadly your last time was the biggest battle ever and sadly it stole you from us, many times we were told you would never make it threw a night or a weekend. I spent as much time with you as i could as thats what you wanted, your loving family around you. Ive never been so heart broken or upset in all my life you where the most precious, kind hearted person id ever met and i know alot of people think the same. At your funeral i could feel my heart aching. I'd do anything to see you one lastime, I cant bring myself to have a Sunday dinner since youve been gone because no one else's will taste the same, you were the best cook, no one will let me test the potato before they put it out like you did. I also just want to add how Brave her daughter, son and husband were through the last moments of her life, they held her hand and loved her til the end. Lisa her daughter stood infront of everyone at the church and read out a speech about her mam, I think that touched everyone's hearts, Thanks for being so brave Lisa xx :). Heres a poem for my aunty doreen as i know she's still with us and i know she's no longer buried she's only in the next room arent you xx :-) :
Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there; i do not sleep,
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sun on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there; I did not die.
love you so much today, forever and always you will never ever be forgotten and i know you are the most beutifull, precious angel up there see you wen i get there love you so much goodbye :-( xxxx
Hello Dotty. Sorry i havent been on for ages. I was thinking about you and wanted to check you were ok. I have a gorgeous son now, he is 20 month old, he was born November 3rd 2009. You will know though as you will be watching us all. All members of the family are missing you :(. There has been some sad times recently, with Sandy dying, and June. Now Uncle Reg and Aunty June can see each other again. It was Anthonys daughters christening today, she is beautiful. I hope you will be there with us on Thomas' christening day, i wish he could have met you. If you have met her, tell Marks mam Hello and Thomas keeps shouting Nana to the picture of her and Marks dad on their wedding day. I am going to go now as i will start crying. Miss you all up there, love you all loads and you will never be forgotten about xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
missing you x
hello mam, its been so long since i left a post on here, life is still the same, still a big empty hole without you in it.... I promise to come here more often and share my thoughts with you, i'm so sorry i havent been writing but things have been really difficult, more difficult than i ever imagined.
It's christmas eve, your favourite night of the year..... i'm heading off to bed soon, your three angels are fast asleep waiting for Santa.
I will visit you in the morning and lay your pink roses and cry a river for what should have been.....
I miss you just as much as ever mam, sleep tight angel x
dotty my second mam xxxxxx
hi dotty yeah its me little gizzy . i no i havent been on 4 a while
but i,ve had my reasons . there is not a day day that a dont think about u . i no that u are watching down on all of us so u will no the reasons y i havent been on . i love n miss u so much dotty give me mam and grandad a big hug 4 me .... love little gizzy tracy and the little fella xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Hi Nanna dotty (my 2nd mam) Sorry i haven't been on 4 a while . I was just talking 2 your Lisa about u the other day about how much we missed u. I have been telling Jake all about u now that's hes old enough 2 understand & showing him photos ov u, because i don't want him 2 forget u as he was so young when u passed away & i know how much u adored him & he adored u. I told u were in heaven because all the WONDERFUL people go there.My granda also passed away not so long ago, so Jake knows all about heaven & why people pass, im sure he understands because he often talks about u. Hes doing really great, his speech is coming on really well, as he has changed schools. The school is a normal school but it has a base there which he gets 1 2 1 help, so hes doing great. We miss u so much, now your an ANGEL in the sky. Love u sweet darling, hope u are at Peace lots of love & hugs from Michelle,Jake & Liam (he is taller than me now) They grow so fast & It pains me that u are not with us anymore to see them grow & your Lisa's children your grand-bairns are so beautiful. But i hope u are with us in spirit (im sure u are) & are watching down on us u lovely Angel! MWAH big kiss & hugz off Jake 4 u xoxoxo U always made everyone SMILE:-) & were so loving & selfless & would always put others first which is very rare trait in people now-days, so that makes u so so special & one ov a kind, a pure star which u still are shining brightly in the sky & u were really adored by the people that knew you! Hope u are smiling down on us, as we smile when we think ov u & the fond memories we have ov u. All our love Dotty & i will light a candle 4 u & come back soon 2 talk 2 u. Lots ov love from Michelle ,Jake & Liam mwah xxxxxxx
3yrs ago today....
3yrs ago today at 12:25 lunchtime you gently and peacefully slipped away from us mam, a memory that will be forever etched in my mind, the most heart wrenching day of my life but also the most privalaged day, to be with you at the end is something I will be eternally grateful for..... I'm honoured that you choose to share your last breathes with me....
3yrs on and life is still the same, same tears and same grief, it hasnt got easier and it never will, you are in my thoughts every second of every day, I still cry everyday and still pick up the phone to ring you a thousand times a day, getting used to not having you here is never going to happen, it's like you have just gone away for a few days and will come back.... if only that were true....
To have just one minute with you would be a dream come true, a minute is a long time, I would just hug you and take in your sweet smell and savour your soft arms around me, just like in my dreams..... that is all i can do is dream.....
Missing you for all eternity mam and love you so much...
Sleep tight mam xx
Your 60th Birthday.....
Today would be your 60th birthday mam, I wonder what we would be doing to celebrate... I know you wouldnt be having a fancy party or anything but am guessing that bingo and chinese food would be a part of your celebrations....
I wish so much that you were here with us to celebrate your birthday, we all miss you more than anyone will ever know.... Sleep tight my precious mam, i love you so much xxx
Well mam, I am so sorry but we had to have your beloved Beano put to sleep yesterday, we took him to the vets cos he was unwell and they told us that his kidneys were failing him and that it was kinder to have him put to sleep..... It was an awful decision to make but I had to do it, it would not have been fair on beano to let him carry on the way he was.... I went to the vets at 6.45 last night and held him in my arms while the vets put him to sleep, it was so peaceful for him and he was such a good boy, he just lay in my arms all snuggled in.... I cried my eyes out at loosing him, he was part of you and part of my life growing up as a kid.... alot of memories swam around my head as I sat with him talking to him telling him I was sorry....
Beano your 21yr old cat is with you now bless him, he pinned so much for you over the years and now he is with you xxx
Hey mam, it's been so long since I last left a post on here, I have still be looking in on you from time to time but I have never seemed to have the right words to put anything down..... before I know it so much time has gone by and once again we are coming around to your birthday and memory....
A lot has happened and there have been a few changes since I last posted on here, your grandson Finlay Jack was born on 26th August but you already know that cos I have taken him to the cemetary so many times to see you, he is so perfect and I just cant take my eyes off him, I really wish you were here to hold him and give him all your love and cuddles like you did with the girls.... All threw my pregnancy I cried so many times with the fear of not having you around in Finlay's life, I still cry each day with the same fears, I really didnt think I could get threw my pregnancy and first few months of Fin's life without you but I have managed to do it, with the strength that you always told me I had.... Now more than ever I need that strength to keep reminding myself what I have in life.... Dad is being a really good surogate you, he adores Fin and is really good with him, I wish you could see it, he even held him a few minutes after he was born and he talks about you to him all the time, he changes his nappies and feeds him, I couldnt ask for more.... Fin and the girls are dads life now you arnt here, and you would be so proud of him the way he heps me out with them....
I still mourn you every day mam and miss you so much that words can not describe how I feel, my tears still flow and my hear still breaks a little more each day...... Sleep tight my angel, I love you xxx
Missing you loads
Hello Aunty Dotty,
Sorry i havent been on for a while. Two of my very good friends have just joined you up there, please take really good care of them.. Its such a shock just when i thought god couldnt hurt me anymore he goes and takes my mates too, when will it stop?? i dont know.
Hope your ok up there, i havent been to the cem for a while either i do apoligise i will pop down through the week or next weekend, just got a new job aswell its ok for now i suppose :)
Well im guna go i'll be back on soon
Always in my heart and thoughts Love & Miss You so much xxxxx
Miss You Loads
Hello Auntie Doreen Darlin Miss You Loads Still,Your In my heart And Thoughts Every Minuete And Every Second Of Every Day Miss You And Love You Loads Foerever Love You Natalie xxxxxx
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